Perception of Blessings and Curses

Many of us grow up with the belief that attributes such as fair skin, wealth, fame, having a spouse, a good family, a male child, or good health are signs of divine favour. This societal construct deeply influences our perceptions of self-worth and our relationship with the concept of God, particularly when we encounter life’s inevitable challenges. These societal beliefs are embedded in our culture and psychology, often dictating how we view ourselves and others. The belief that those who possess these attributes are favored by God creates a dichotomy, where those who lack them are perceived as less fortunate or even cursed.

   The concept of divine favour has profound psychological implications. It affects our self-esteem, our relationships, and our worldview. When we face challenges or setbacks, the belief that we are less favoured by God can lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. These feelings are exacerbated when society reinforces the notion that those who lack certain attributes are less worthy or less blessed.

Socio-Economic Status and Caste

   The psychological impact of socio-economic status and caste is particularly significant in societies with rigid social hierarchies. Individuals born into higher socio-economic statuses or privileged castes are often perceived as divinely favoured. This perception raises critical questions about the concept of God for those who are less fortunate. How does one reconcile the idea of a benevolent deity with the harsh realities of poverty and social exclusion?

   A poignant example of resilience and adaptation in the face of social exclusion can be found in  Mata - ni - pachhedi, a ritual textile of the Vaghri community from Gujrat. It is enshrined with an elaborate set of rituals including the entranced dance by a bhuva, or shaman, the burning of incense, beating of drums and offering of animal sacrifice. This textile, a moveable place of worship, was created by a community that was historically prohibited from entering temples. I had the opportunity to see this work at a UNESCO heritage hotel in Ahmedabad called the House of Gandhi and their textile museum. The community wove their deities into the fabric, integrating their spiritual rituals into the very texture of their daily lives. This adaptation is a remarkable psychological coping mechanism, demonstrating resilience and the creation of a unique cultural identity in response to social exclusion.

   The creation of "Mata ni Pachhedi" illustrates how marginalized communities adapt their spiritual practices to cope with exclusion. This adaptation is not just a survival mechanism but also a way to preserve and assert their cultural identity. The psychological resilience demonstrated by this community is a testament to the human spirit's capacity to find meaning and purpose in adversity.

Gender and Social Conditioning

   Gender bias remains a significant psychological stressor in many societies. Being born a woman is often viewed as less favourable, impacting mental health and self-esteem. This societal bias is reinforced by social conditioning from an early age. Parents may favour one child over another based on socially appealing traits such as good looks, preferred gender, or intelligence. This favouritism can lead to long-lasting psychological effects.

   The forsaken child may develop a persistent sense of abandonment and rejection, potentially leading to attachment issues, low self-esteem, and chronic feelings of inadequacy. These psychological scars can affect their relationships and self-worth throughout their lives. The favoured child, on the other hand, may develop a sense of entitlement and superiority, which can lead to its own set of psychological challenges.

   The impact of gender bias is not limited to individual psychology but also extends to societal dynamics. Societies that value one gender over another create environments where inequality and discrimination are normalized. This normalization perpetuates cycles of oppression and limits the potential of individuals based on their gender.

Morality, Material Wealth, and Cognitive Dissonance

   The societal glorification of material wealth as a sign of divine favour creates a psychological conflict. This phenomenon, known as cognitive dissonance, occurs when individuals are pressured to compromise their morals to achieve financial success. Cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort experienced when holding two conflicting beliefs, values, or attitudes.

   In the pursuit of material wealth, individuals may find themselves compromising their morals and values. This internal conflict leads to mental stress and a sense of guilt or shame. The perceived unfairness and the moral compromises required to attain wealth can undermine an individual's sense of integrity and purpose, fostering existential anxiety and a crisis of faith.

   The societal emphasis on material wealth as a measure of success and divine favour creates unrealistic expectations and pressures. Individuals are judged not by their character or virtues but by their financial status. This emphasis on materialism can lead to a devaluation of moral and ethical principles, resulting in a society where the ends justify the means.

Cognitive Dissonance and Faith

   Cognitive dissonance also arises from the struggle to reconcile the concept of a benevolent deity with the harsh realities of life. The intricate beauty and vastness of the universe, often attributed to divine creation, become sources of existential bewilderment. The concept of God historically provided a framework for understanding these mysteries, but negative life circumstances can erode this faith.

   When society labels the less fortunate as forsaken by God, it exacerbates feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. These labels can lead to a profound sense of isolation and alienation. The individual may feel disconnected from their community and from the divine, leading to higher levels of anxiety and depression.

   The struggle to maintain faith in the face of adversity is a common human experience. Faith provides a sense of purpose and meaning, but when life’s challenges seem insurmountable, maintaining that faith can be difficult. The psychological impact of losing faith can be devastating, leading to a sense of purposelessness and despair.

The Importance of Gratitude and Faith

   Gratitude plays a crucial role in psychological well-being. It is imperative to redefine what we consider blessings and cultivate an appreciation for non-material aspects of life. Gratitude helps us focus on the positive aspects of our lives, fostering a sense of contentment and happiness.

   For those facing adversity, maintaining a strong sense of faith is essential for psychological resilience. Faith provides a sense of hope and optimism, helping individuals navigate through difficult times. Unfortunately, societal stigmatization can weaken this faith, making it challenging to sustain a positive outlook.

   Addressing these psychological impacts requires a compassionate approach that fosters empathy and a broader understanding of what it means to be blessed. By shifting our focus from material wealth and societal status to values such as kindness, compassion, and integrity, we can create a more inclusive and supportive society.

Conclusion

   Societal perceptions of divine favour and blessings have significant psychological ramifications. By promoting inclusivity and empathy, we can mitigate the psychological distress associated with these perceptions. Understanding and appreciating cultural adaptations, such as the creation of "Mata ni Pachhedi," can inspire more inclusive spiritual practices and enhance psychological resilience.

   Reframing our notions of blessings and fostering gratitude can lead to healthier, more resilient minds, better equipped to navigate life's challenges. By recognizing the intrinsic value of every individual, regardless of their social status or material wealth, we can create a more just and compassionate world.

   In conclusion, the concept of divine favour is deeply ingrained in our psychology and culture. It shapes our self-perception, our relationships, and our worldview. By examining and challenging these societal beliefs, we can foster a more inclusive and compassionate society. Understanding the psychological impact of these beliefs is the first step towards creating a world where every individual is valued and supported, regardless of their circumstances.